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Lez Say More Podcast
Your Love Language Isn't Set in Stone
We explore how understanding and speaking different love languages can strengthen relationships even when partners have different preferences.
• The five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Physical Touch, Acts of Service, and Receiving Gifts
• Why having different love languages isn't a relationship dealbreaker
• How to communicate your needs without triggering defensiveness
• The importance of acknowledging your partner's efforts, even when imperfect
• Why love languages can change over time and require regular check-ins
• Signs that someone has checked out when they stop speaking any love language
• The need to put ego aside and make compromises to fill your partner's cup
Let us know your love language and how you navigate differences with your partner! You can leave comments on our YouTube, message us on Instagram, or email us at our podcast address.
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It's all of them. I mean, who doesn't like to receive gifts? I mean, I want words of affirmation, I want you to hug me. Yeah, I want you to get me gifts when as you should, as you should, and I want.
Speaker 2:Hey guys, welcome back to the let's Say More podcast. I am Salon, I'm Ava, and today we have a fun topic for you guys. Based on our what was it called? Poll that we did a couple weeks back, we saw that relationships was a big winner. You guys really want us to talk about relationships. I mean, why not? We're experienced. We are experienced, some more than others. Me, I've had more relationships.
Speaker 1:I was like damn, what's that supposed to mean?
Speaker 2:So today we're going to talk about love languages. Yes, and Luna's, letting you know what hers is and Luna's letting me know what her love language is right now by rolling around on the ground making all kinds of noise. It's not time yet, mama. Let us finish this podcast episode and we'll feed you. Okay, so love languages what are they?
Speaker 1:Acts of service Physical touch. Yeah, there's five of them Words of affirmation, gift giving and the last one, quality time Quality time.
Speaker 2:Yep. Physical touch, receiving gifts, quality time and words of affirmation, yep, what's yours? All of them Like a true cancer.
Speaker 1:Give me all of them.
Speaker 2:I'll take any.
Speaker 1:Yeah, any, all of them. I mean I'm good, I'm good, I don't know.
Speaker 2:I think I would say for me it's a cross between quality time, for sure, and physical touch. I know that there are things that are like first and second for people. Physical touch is another one, but then again, I'm not opposed to words of affirmation. So all of them. And I'm definitely not opposed to what's the other one Receiving gifts?
Speaker 1:Right, it's all of them, I mean who?
Speaker 1:doesn't like to receive gifts, I mean, I want words of affirmation, I want you to hug me yeah, I want you to get me gifts when as you should, as you should, and I want to be cooked for as you guys all know I say that a lot and quality time, yeah, I think that they're all important. I think to like put it in a box sometimes it's because, also, as women, you might need one more than the other at any given time of your life, I mean, or your cycle, yeah, any of that stuff. But Fernanda is acts of service, which kind of led me to this whole topic.
Speaker 2:But okay, so what's yours? What would you say? Yours is that you give.
Speaker 1:I don't know. I think that I'm a problem solver, so like, if you have a problem, I want to solve it, you know, or? I want to help you figure it out Because you're an empath. Yes, I am, and so I don't know. I can't organize for the life of me, but I'll appreciate that you can.
Speaker 2:Except for your shoes. Yes, well, because the only thing I've ever seen so meticulously organized.
Speaker 1:Yes, but like I'll help you, I'll help you, or I will make sure it stays that way, or I think that people bring different things to a relationship. Yeah, and I think you're good at something and I'm not going to be good at that thing, right, but I'm good at something else, right, and I think that that could be acknowledged Like well, ava's good with this and Solange is good with this, so let's appreciate what we're good at, yeah, and let's like yeah, I think my love language that I give is acts of service.
Speaker 2:Okay, like I think that for me I show love by doing things for other people, you know I, but also I would say quality time would be another one maybe that I do, I don't know that I or, yeah, I, I do, I do. I am very much a physical touch person, but I think it's also because I like to be touched, like I am a Taurus, so for me, like anything that feels good, I'm all about it, but I don't know that. Words of affirmation words of affirmation is something I have become better at.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but I think it's important to acknowledge your partner.
Speaker 1:A, I don't think people really understand the battles that we fight on our own, that we do not express, whether that be out of shame, whether that be out of security, whether that be out of you just are the type that bottle things inside. So I do think you should affirm your partner, especially if they're trying and I think people I might not do something the way you want me to do it, but the fact that I'm even doing it. You should acknowledge me, yeah, yeah, and be a little bit softer on me with things too. Yeah, because it's that saying you attract more bees with honey. Priscilla taught me that. I've heard that one before, you know. So I think that, like, there's a lot of truth to that. I think when you're mean to someone, when you ask for something in a mean way, people are-.
Speaker 1:Like when you demand the act of service, or when you tell someone that, like you don't do, they don't do it. They don't do it your way, all of a sudden they don't do anything.
Speaker 2:So do you think that two people who have different acts of or love languages why do I keep saying acts of service Two people who have two different love languages, can they have a healthy relationship? Like how many? How often do you think that two people with the same love language are in a relationship together? I don't think.
Speaker 1:Often, I think A relationships are all about compromising A hundred percent, and if your ego is bigger than a compromise, then prepare to get disappointed. Yeah, yeah, I agree. I think the whole love language thing is cool, but I also think people take it a little too far. As far as well. You're not speaking my language, so you're the worst partner ever. No, no, no. How about you teach me what you want? Yeah, I may never do it up to par Right, but appreciate that I'm willing, I'm open to learning. There's an effort. There's an effort there and you know what? Sometimes, yeah, you might have to ask me to do it. Sometimes, I don't know, I can't read your mind.
Speaker 2:Yeah, 100% Like for me. I have been in relationships where I don't realize that I'm not meeting their act of service. I mean, oh my God, I'm not meeting their love language. Yeah, act of service. Or I mean, oh my God, I'm not meeting their love language and we will talk about it and they'll say, you know, like this is my love languages, I don't know.
Speaker 2:Let's say words of affirmation, right, like tell me you think I'm pretty, or tell me that you like the way I look, or tell me that this looks good on me. And for me it was hard at first because I was like am I not doing that? I'm like, I feel like I'm doing that. I feel like I'm telling you, I'm thinking it right, but the words are just not coming out of my mouth. And maybe it's because I feel awkward or I feel weird saying it at first or paying somebody a compliment. Now forget it. Like, now I'm like you look really good, or you look great, or that looks good on you, even to people that are not necessarily like a friend or a partner, you know, just a stranger. Because I feel like people love to hear compliments.
Speaker 1:Everybody likes to be complimented.
Speaker 2:I mean, I don't know anybody who doesn't like to be complimented. I feel like it adds flowers to their day, like they're just like you know whether you were like. I rolled out of bed, I threw on a sweater and somebody still thinks I look good, like I feel good.
Speaker 2:That makes me feel good, you know. But I think that if you're in a relationship where you're both speaking two different languages, you definitely have to come together and have a conversation and say, okay, what's your love language, what's my love language? If this person is words of affirmation and mine is gifts, like we have to speak to one another in a way where we are communicating and we're providing that other person with what they want and need as well. So if that means I have to put my ego aside or I have to, you know, like be a little bit more humble and say, oh, you look really good today, like it's a skill you have to learn. Practice it's practice. If it doesn't come natural to you, it's a skill you learn over time and you have to just really make an effort. If that person is really important to you, you make an effort.
Speaker 2:Like in anything else, nobody goes into knowing anything. Everybody you know. Unfortunately, nobody knows anything until you learn it. You know, like you're not born knowing something immediately. Right, you have to learn. So it's the same thing in a relationship you learn each other, you learn what the other person wants and needs from you and you provide that. If you don't want to provide it or you don't know how or you feel weird providing it, then maybe that's a different conversation.
Speaker 1:No, that's where the conversation goes into ego, and I think that your ego shouldn't take over, making someone feel special, especially if they've come to you numerous times and said well, I need this from you. And then, whenever you say that you need something for them in a nice way, and they try, but you still aren't trying what they've asked you to do. Well, then why are you expecting anything? Well, you have to fill their cup as well, and I think people lose sight of that and they're like well, no, you're supposed to do all this.
Speaker 2:No, it's not a one-way street, it's not. It goes both ways.
Speaker 1:Fill up your partner's cup, and I guarantee you this. You fill up your partner's cup and then you approach them nicely about something They'll be more open to wanting to do it for you. Yeah, but if you're constantly pounding on them about stuff and just never really saying anything nice to them and you're just always Like you don't do this, you don't do that, and then you feel like you're being picked on.
Speaker 1:Well, you go into defense mode, right? Well, you might not even go into defense mode, you might just go into a mode where you're like am I even good enough anymore? Yeah, I think people forget that and especially with women, that definitely happens. Just like not being nice to her, you're picking at her. You are going to create this insecurity in them that they are not going to feel confident anymore. And when you are not at your best and you're not confident, you're not going to be able to love, right? And when we're in relationships for a long time, we lose sight of those sorts of things.
Speaker 1:And it was on the episode where I said, like you need to check in with your partner. And I have felt it. I have been on the other side of it. I've been on both sides. I have people in my life now that are going through things like that. So I hear it and I'm like all it takes is for you to just make an adjustment. Just show the person that you give a damn and we've lost that. We've lost that sense of like showing people we give a damn and the ones that are. And when a person is changing, make sure you acknowledge that. Stop holding things on that they did a year ago when they're like moving in the right direction. Be like you know what, I see you, I see that you did that, or you know, I hear you and I'm sorry and I'm going to fix it that saying those words to someone goes such a long way.
Speaker 2:It shows maturity and willingness to put effort into the relationship and see it move in the direction that you want it to move in. I think a lot of times people don't realize that. They think, oh well, we've been together for so long so it's fine, they know.
Speaker 1:They know that I love them.
Speaker 2:She knows or he knows or whatever. They know that. I think they always look good.
Speaker 2:And it's like, no, we don't know, we want to be told, everybody wants to hear it, everybody wants to know. And also like not going into it and going as the person who's maybe at that point, not heard what they want to hear from their partner and being like, well, you never. You never tell me I look good, or you never compliment me, or you never. Blah, blah, blah, tell me I look good. And then you put that person in that spot. They're going to go into full auto like defensive mode. They're going to be like don't tell me what to do, I'm not going to do that. Well, now I'm on the spot.
Speaker 2:Well, I don't know, and right, because I've been in that position, I've been called out, and I feel really, then, at at that point, insecure or not good enough, or like, oh my God, I'm on the spot, like I need to defend myself, even though I may agree with them, even even though I may agree with them on like man, they're right, like I don't, I don't do, but I'm not going to, I'm not going to double, I'm going to double down on this now, because now I feel like I'm being attacked, now because now I feel like I'm being attacked.
Speaker 2:So, instead of saying that, say something more like hey, babe, you know, like you know, my love language is obviously words of affirmation. You know, and I know that's not yours, but you know, it would really make me feel good if, every once in a while, maybe, you tell me I look good, or you like what I'm wearing, or you know I did a great job cleaning the house, or you know I did a great job cleaning the house, or you know, whatever it may be, and your partner can then say, yeah, okay, you know, I'll make an effort, yeah, I'll try, and then the next time you see them, you're getting ready to go out you just say you know, you don't have to say anything crazy, you don't have to, like, give her a whole poem from the moon to the stars, to the ocean, to like. You can just simply say you're looking good, babe. Yeah, you know. Like those pants look good on you. Or that shirt looks good yeah, I agree with you.
Speaker 1:I might get you laid. Yeah, I mean it just. It just goes. It goes a long way and I think that the longer you're in a relationship you lose sight of that. I think in the beginning it's all you know, it's the beginning stages, but it's like you got to keep your love alive.
Speaker 2:You have to keep things specific.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you have to, and it's like when you're with someone you know make them feel important, make them feel like they mean something to you, because the amount of times that I think people I don't want to just say women, because I know men go through, maybe they hold things in, maybe more than women do, because society has painted it where, like a man, when they can't be a man. So just people in general, I mean be sensitive.
Speaker 2:Be sensitive, they have to be a man. Yeah, I think, whatever that means.
Speaker 1:Yeah, right, whatever society has painted them to be that way. And I think that being kind to someone, even for like one minute, goes further than you may know, and letting someone know what they mean to you goes a long way. Telling someone you miss them or like, hey, how's your day? Or really connecting with the person rather than going and doing your own thing on the sofa or in the kitchen and just not acknowledging the person and not acknowledging what the person has done throughout the years too, what they've put up with. I mean, none of us are easy to be with. I think we're all hard to be with because we're forever evolving. Yeah, right, our needs become different. Our love language may change over time. Yeah, it may change. So just knowing that, wow, this journey's been a long one and we've weathered a lot of storms, right, and I appreciate that you're still standing next to me continuing to weather them, right, right, those sorts of things go a long way, and I think I'm tired of the excuse of like, well, the person wasn't taught that Well.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean, listen, you got to get through it. Everybody has traumas, we all have it.
Speaker 1:I have it.
Speaker 2:Everybody comes with packages and baggages and all kinds of BS that we've been exposed to and we've endured through our lives, whether we wanted to or not. At that point it's no longer an excuse, but rather it should be your push to move into the direction of overcoming these things. Break the cycle. Break the cycle right. So, like you have past traumas, you have family traumas, you have these like vicious, toxic cycles that keep happening. You have to break the cycle. So, whether that is, you go to therapy and you talk it out and you figure it out and you do the work and you get yourself into a place where, like you now feel better about who you are and you have the tools, because that's the most important thing that you get out of doing the work is you get the tools to learn how to deal with the trauma, because the trauma is never going to fully go away. It's always going to be there. But you're going to have the tools to now recognize the signals and see it happening and you're more aware of it. So you're like, okay, that's triggering this, this and this. Let me go into my toolbox, let me take out the tool that I learned how to deal with this trauma and let me figure out how to respond, and it becomes second nature. But you have to do the work, because if you don't do the work, then this cycle is going to repeat itself every single relationship you have and you're never going to have a successful one and it's always going to end in the same way some sort of toxic behavior that's going to continue to cycle and cycle, and cycle.
Speaker 2:And I've seen it in my life with certain things, you know, like certain, like my own fear-based trauma and the cycle that I have and these like self-limiting beliefs that I have, and the same. I tell myself the same story every time and I'm always like, dude, you got to break the cycle, you got to break the cycle and it's, it's work, it's hard, it's not easy, like, let me tell you it's not easy, but I feel like if you're able to have that conversation with your whoever it doesn't even need to be your partner, like it could be your, like friend or parent or whatever you know, like love languages aren't just between couples, they're between friends too, right, and just you know you have love languages with everybody, and I think that that's where things like even like parent and child, like I mean what's Mel's love language, if you would say like her love language that she gives and that she likes to receive.
Speaker 1:I think right now, the stage that she's in, are like words of affirmation Mm-hmm, I can see that. Yeah, like that Gift giving, I think for her it's cool, she appreciates it, but she appreciates the words more. Yeah, Like you're doing a good job, Like she works out right. So it's like if you feel her arm and you tell her like oh then the smile is different.
Speaker 1:You know like she glows when you tell her things like that If she's doing a good job, if she did an art project and she did really well, you acknowledge that she likes that. I don't know if quality time is right now, because quality time with her friends.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but she's a teenager. But quality time with her friends makes her glow so different.
Speaker 1:She loves her group of friends. She's so the happiness I see in her. It's so rewarding to see Like, wow, yeah, she's so carefree with them, she's so happy. So I think those two are are like important for her right now. What?
Speaker 2:about one that like her active I mean her live language that she.
Speaker 1:She's so helpful, so like like she's so like I, you know I could ask her to help me with something and she helps me. She does do words of affirmation too, like she will tell me something looks nice on me. You know she's like that, you know. So I think those two what's Fern's Acts of service, but it's not acts of service of like.
Speaker 2:Acts of service is what she wants to receive or acts of service, is what she gives as her love language.
Speaker 1:Fernanda's love language that she wants to receive is acts of service, like a very clean house from top to bottom. Everything is put in where it's supposed to go Like a good Latina.
Speaker 2:Everything needs to go where it's supposed to go.
Speaker 1:Like a good Latina. Everything needs to go where it should go and that's what she looks for. Okay, what does she give? I mean, I would say she does acts of services because she'll cook a really good meal. Like when she's making you food, she's making sure it tastes good for you and she wants you to enjoy it. And her presentation no, her presentation for her own plate is better than the presentation for your plate. But no, the food is always good and she does value a very clean house, Like I think for her it kind of says a lot about herself.
Speaker 2:So like doing things for people. Doing things for her, to her is a way of like is is the way that she loves to receive Like she likes to receive love.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like if I can take her car to go get the oil chain Right or fill it up with gas or those kinds of things. So what I do now is I'll get the oil chain Right or fill it up with gas or those kinds of things. So what I do now is I'll get the car washed. Yeah, right, like because I don't leave the house enough work to go get her the oil chain, like I don't have time for that.
Speaker 2:But see, that's your way of making an effort knowing that her love language is acts of service. You know, okay, I'm gonna go get her car, I'm gonna get the car wash yeah. I'm gonna get her car wash. I'm gonna fill it up. I'm gonna do this. I'm gonna do that. I'm gonna, you know, take the trash out. I'm gonna, because that's how she likes to be loved.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like the other day I think I tried to make an effort to wipe down the counters and to keep it the way she wanted. Like I tried to do these sorts of things and I hope you know she sees that I know I don't do it the way in her. I don't think anyone, anyone can do it the way she wants it, not even the cleaning lady that she hired that did it the way she wanted it done.
Speaker 2:But I think that's because that sounds a lot like my mother. I think that's because at that point there's like this level of neuroticism that happens, that we and I say we because I can be like that- too Okay. Where I just feel like I do it better, so just let me do it. But then shouldn't you?
Speaker 1:then. But I do do it, okay, but then do you get mad if it's not done for you the right way.
Speaker 2:No, because I don't expect anybody to. I'm different, though, because for me, like I do it myself, I get some weird enjoyment out of it too. Like I, like I, it's my part of my OCD, so I don't mind that Like. To me, that's not. That's not bad.
Speaker 2:Now, if I lived with a pig and this person did not clean up after themselves and they didn't care and they disrespected like our home and and and that to me, is a different thing, because at that point you're like okay, listen, you know that I like things a certain way, you don't like things a certain way.
Speaker 2:We need to compromise here, and at that point you need to have a conversation about like, like your boundaries as to like cleanliness and what's acceptable and what's not acceptable, and chores and who pulls their weight and whatever. Whatever. I mean that's a whole other thing. But we're talking about acts of service. I mean we're talking about I keep saying that we're talking about love languages. So I feel like if it's your love language to receive acts of service, then I think that you should also allow that person that maybe that's not their love language to make the effort, and for you to then acknowledge the effort that's made, even if it's a small gesture, because it's out of their arena, it's out of their comfort zone, it's out of their, you know, same as like somebody who maybe loves to receive gifts right, I love to receive gifts. I love to get gifts from anyone and everywhere to receive gifts right, I love to receive gifts. I love to get gifts from anyone and everywhere, all the time, right.
Speaker 2:But the other person that may not be their thing, it may not be to give you gifts all the time, so it's like when I tell you I love you and I give you love and I show you affection and I give you quality time and all of that.
Speaker 2:That's my way of giving you a gift, right? Because I may not be able to give it to you through like physical items, right? Or maybe it's like taking you out to dinner, or maybe it's like, you know, creating date night at home, or you know, in different ways, because, if you think about it, all the love languages, like acts of service and quality time, all those things are free, but gift giving is not necessarily always free, right? Their partner or their whoever their love language is, with the love language that they want to receive, as long as there's an effort made, and then the other person really needs to be open-minded to receive it yeah, you have to be open-minded because, just because I don't put the towel in the closet in the right way, but I make sure the water filter is changed every three months.
Speaker 1:That washes your body so that you don't get your eczema and you don't get all this other stuff. Acknowledge me for that. Give me those. Give me those. You know that I make sure that the drains aren't clogged. I make sure that our house is sprayed every month so you don't have to worry about roaches.
Speaker 2:I make sure that mortgage is paid.
Speaker 1:You know, like those are acts of service too. Those are acts of service. Yeah, no one does that for me, right? So I do it. Acknowledge that too. Yeah, Right, that all goes with saying that, just because I'm not doing it the exact way you want me to do it if you acknowledge all these other things, maybe then I'll be more prone to doing it exactly that way.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and you can't like. Yeah. I think that the whole love language thing, I think, has been talked about for so long, for so many years and so many people have, I think, have more than one love language.
Speaker 1:Okay, I have a question for you. What if you were doing a love language a year ago? You've been in a relationship for, let's say, five years. For year one through five you were doing words of affirmation. You were also doing acts of service. Then all of a sudden you stopped and you became kind of a different person, a little bit meaner with certain things. But you still have a love language, but you're not providing a love language for the person anymore.
Speaker 2:Like any of them.
Speaker 1:None of them.
Speaker 2:Like not even quality time no.
Speaker 1:And they're telling you. They come to you and they say like hey, do you even love me?
Speaker 2:That's what I would say.
Speaker 1:Or how do you think that relationship should solve that problem?
Speaker 2:Well, I mean, at that point to me that tells me that person has fully checked out. Because if you are not and providing any kind of love language to your partner, be it quality time, acts of service, words of affirmation or like receiving, like giving gifts, I think that at that point, like that person is checked out, like you've checked out, yeah, you are over it, you're not in the relationship you have, mentally kind of just, you're like somewhere else, something's going on, something's going on.
Speaker 2:Yeah, mentally kind of just you're like somewhere else, something's going on something's going on, yeah, so I think that at that point you either you have to have a conversation and be like, hey, can we get on the same page, like let's have a talk. What is going on? Why this is? This is how I feel yes, we say feel yeah I feel, x and Z that you are stupid.
Speaker 2:Try not to use you. I feel blah, blah, blah, blah, blah when this happens. Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Not when you do this. It's more like you know you want to avoid the other person getting defensive or shutting up or shutting down. Yeah, defensive or shutting down. So to me I would say have that conversation, see why that person has checked out. First and foremost because it could be their own internal stuff going on right. It could be that they're I don't know super stressed out about something I mean.
Speaker 1:I think that love languages I think two people can have different ones. I think it can work if they're both willing to learn the other person's or at least put some effort. I don't think that people are always going to be perfect. If my love language is words of affirmation and I want to hear, the minute I wake up, that I don't look crazy and whatever, or that you're beautiful little sunshine.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but if the only way you know how to affirm me is to tell me that my shirt looks nice rather than like my face looks nice, I'll take that Right Same.
Speaker 2:Well, it's the same way as you can clean a counter but you can't clean the whole house. I'll take that, Take it.
Speaker 1:Take it Be appreciated.
Speaker 2:Jesus. All to say that everybody has different love languages, but it's how you communicate that makes it work, Because I think that if you're two people also, I think it could be a little boring if you're two people with the same love language.
Speaker 1:Could you imagine You're so beautiful?
Speaker 2:You're so beautiful.
Speaker 1:Your eyes are. You look great, oh, you look great, that's.
Speaker 2:I can't, I'd be like, oh my God, I'm so, Although the acts of I mean what is it? Gift giving?
Speaker 1:You wouldn't mind that that would be interesting, like you both give each other. Gifts all the time.
Speaker 2:But what if you give the same gifts? That's true, you'd both be living under the freeway. You'd be broke. Give a little too many gifts.
Speaker 1:Be broke, oh my.
Speaker 2:God. But I definitely think that, like people who don't speak the same language but have very different love languages, I think that they can make it work as long as the conversation is had. But the whole point of it is that you really have to try and you really have to make an effort, and that goes into any relationship. You have to try, you have to make an effort regardless of how long you've been together, because the longer you're together, the harder it gets sometimes.
Speaker 1:The different languages you might speak.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and I think that people change over time, like things, different things become important to you and I think that that's okay. But you have to check in every once in a while and find out what their new love language is, or find out what they you know what they want you to hear from you and have a conversation and say, hey, babe, what's your love? Like, how do you want me to love you? Like, what do you want me to do when?
Speaker 1:should I begin? Where should?
Speaker 2:I begin, but, like you know, like even that simple, like especially men, because I feel like men, poor men, they really have no clue. You know, like women, we can pick up some clues, but men have no clue because women are complicated as hell. Men are very simple and men are so simple. Like men are like feed me, fuck me, and like let me go to the bathroom and I'm happy, I'm a happy man.
Speaker 1:Well, according to Austin's ex-wife, someone told her that if a man has time to go to the bathroom, he has time to cheat. So maybe oh maybe no bathroom.
Speaker 2:Don't let him go to the bathroom. I mean, I know they love to spend so much time in the bathroom. Don't let him go to the bathroom Like you know, they got to be fed and they got to be screwed. I mean that for sure.
Speaker 1:And let them watch some sports.
Speaker 2:And let them watch. If they're into sports, they might not be into either. I don't know, Like you know something that's problematic to the relationship? Oh no, Like Austin's hobby? Yeah, I don't know. But I'm just saying I think that there are ways to communicate and be able to get to the same page, but you have to put your ego away.
Speaker 2:Your ego's not your amigo, you have to make an effort. If you love somebody, I feel like if you truly love that other person, regardless of who they are to your life, your partner, your friend, your child you're going to make an effort. You have to make an effort Because if you don't make an effort and you don't care, then that person's going to feel like they don't care. And why do you want that person to feel like you don't care? Unless you're truly over it and you don't want to be in the relationship anymore, then that's a different conversation. But I feel like you should always make sure to check in and make sure that, regardless of how crazy busy your life is, you should check in. You should say, hey, are you happy? Yeah, like, am I doing enough for you? Am I meeting your needs? Yeah, or am I filling your cup?
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's important to fill your person's cup.
Speaker 2:It's always important to fill up each other's cups. It's not a one cup. Oh, that just reminded me of Two girls. One cup. Yeah, I knew you were going there.
Speaker 1:That is disgusting.
Speaker 2:God, that was a thing back in our day, ew.
Speaker 1:That was gross.
Speaker 2:Anyway, I'd like to know what your guys' love language is how do you communicate right.
Speaker 1:Let us know what you think. Let us know if you think you know two people with different love, languages, if they can stay together. How would you? What advice would you give people who aren't speaking the same one Like?
Speaker 2:how have you?
Speaker 1:overcome that. Let us know.
Speaker 2:How do you check in with your partner or child or friend if you guys are not speaking the same love language? Because I think that would be a great follow-up to it. So send us those little letters or notes or comments on our YouTube Because we hope you're watching.
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